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New Years Resolutions

Here are my 10 resolutions for the New Year:

  1. I came across this website, which suggests choosing a word for the year to focus on. My word is ATTENTION. So, my first resolution is to be present and patient with my children.  I sometimes get caught up in the everydayness of having kids and I really want to enjoy them.  Giving them my full attention will help me. Hoping I can cross this one off my list at least a few times a week.
  2. Pay attention and patient with my husband and myself.  Be understanding if I don’t cross that one off as easily at first.  (Not that #1 is easy.)  It’s all a practice.
  3. To that end, review the day while taking a shower before bed.  (I take a shower every night already, so this is one way to incorporate my goals into my established routine.)  Think of a wonderful, “golden moment” for each member of my family.  And a moment when each person struggled.  Write these moments down in a journal before going to bed.  In the morning, when doing my brief (very brief these days!) yoga routine, do an abbreviated “Compassionate Response Meditation” for each of us — breathing in the image of struggle and holding the person with love and breathing out the “golden moment” and holding the person with joy.  On days when I won’t be doing yoga, I will do this in bed before getting up.
  4. Go for a short walk 2 days/ week and a longer walk on on the weekend with my family.   I can do this while wearing Ben and he usually falls asleep in the carrier for this is a win/win resolution. Realize it’s a goal and I may need to work up to it.
  5. Drink more water and eat healthy — no sugar, no alcohol, no cheese, no wheat — and then have one day/ week when I allow myself whatever I want.  Otherwise, what’s the point?  I will just start eating cookies every night.
  6. Sleep.  Go to bed by 9:30pm every night. This one is actually pretty easy for me since I'm exhausted at the end of the day.
  7. Go out after the kids are in bed one night/ month even if it is just for a short amount of time.  See my sister, hang out with my husband without the children right there, connect with other mamas — It’s important.  Be back for my own “bedtime” so I don’t pay for going out by not exercising the next morning.
  8. Devote one hour/ week for writing.  And do it.
  9. Devote two hours/ week for larger goals.  Pick one and keep it up — even if it is just a little step each week — until it is accomplished.  And then pick the next one.
  10. Be flexible and patient with myself — knowing that some goals may not be completed until my children are grown.  And that’s fine.  Go back to goal!

And what are your resolutions this year?