Nothing changed my life more than becoming a mother 4.5 years ago. And there really was no way to prepare for it. Suddenly I was working all the time, up to my ears in stress, and had close to no support. I felt frayed around the edges, let down by my partner, and worn out beyond anything I ever could have imagined. Worse of all, I felt like it was my fault, that I must be the only one who couldn’t handle the strain.
Now I know that there are plenty of practical things a new mom can do that will help her feel better and get more support and partnership from her significant other.
3 WAYS TO FEEL BETTER NOW:
- Lower the demands on you
- Increase your resources
- Build up your resilience
You are entitled to a joy filled life and Mom-ME circle is here to support you. This time with your little one(s) is so special and fleeting and you should be able to enjoy it fully.
A baby is an inestimable blessing and a bother.
Since having my 2nd child I am learning (I’m a work in progress!) that taking care of myself is NOT selfish. It’s what I need to do in order to be the best mom possible and still have energy left over for my relationship with my partner.
Through our circles together you will see what minor miracles can happen in your life when you make some simple changes in such things as what you eat, the way you think about stress, and how you talk to your partner.
As demanding as parenthood has been on our partners, it has an even greater impact on us, the mamas. If you gave birth, you had the incredible task of using 80,000 extra calories to grow a new person! And if you breastfeed you use about 750-1000 extra calories a day. That's like running 7-10 miles day after day.
The real labor begins after birth.
And the more committed you are to being sensitive and respectful to your child, the more work there is. This was my biggest challenge as a new mom- I felt I always had to be present for someone else and I could never take a break. I was on call 24/7. I was the one, not my beloved partner, who stumbled down the hall at night to tend to baby G when she cried in the middle of the night, dealt with hair struggles, and am still the front man during preschool tantrums. And of course, when we added baby B to the mix 4 months ago things only got more stressful.
So, I am giving myself this reminder more than anyone else: If the demands on a person grow, her resources should grow as well. Have your resources grown since having a baby? If you would like them to, I hope you will think about joining a mom-ME circle. Whether you are going back to work or staying home with your little one, when you've got a young family, joy can fall away all too quickly, old friends drop out of your life, and you never seem to have any real time to yourself... UNITL NOW! Get the support you deserve and need.