How to use the weeds in your life

 This picture was taken 3 years ago when we were just about to put in our garden.

This picture was taken 3 years ago when we were just about to put in our garden.

"Having children is like planting seeds from an unmarked packet. You vaguely believe you'll get daisies, but instead you get roses, morning glories, iris... all wonderful and beautiful, like you."
-Anonymous.

Right now, our veggie garden is in full bloom (is it still called "bloom" if it's not flowers? Maybe I should say "full veg"?!) and my kids are loving it. So am I.

I love that when I plant strawberries I get strawberries. The certainty of it is so rewarding.

So what happens when weeds start sprouting up around my precious veggies, pushing them aside and taking nutrients from them? Some people see weeds as annoying and something to dispose of. Others think of them as plants they haven't yet to found a use for. And yet others feel they are the right thing in the wrong place.

Side note: did you know that dandelions are actually quite nutritious... and delicious!? Their leaves are edible, the roots can be used to make tinctures that help with digestion issues, and their flowers make sweet little crowns or necklaces for our children. And my personal favorite part of the dandelion: the beautiful puff ball of seeds that I can blow as I scatter my wishes into the universe.

So, how do you view the "weeds" in your own life? What happens when you are peacefully working in your garden of life, planting seeds of healthy kids, throwing a party, or plugging along on a work project and something unexpected happens... WEEDS? The kid gets sick, it rains on your parade or your business partner doesn't keep her end of the bargain.

Here are my top 5 ways to deal with weeds:

  1. Stop settling. Decide what you want to bloom in your garden and plant THAT. What do you really, REALLY want? The more comfortable you become owning you power, the clearer you'll become on what you truly desire. Then you can start enjoying your harvest.
  2. Let the sun shine. Most of us are more afraid of our own light than of our shadow. When weeds show up, be willing to take a risk and let others see how talented you are at continuing to shine despite the unwanted growth.
  3. Practice being more assertive in your communication with others. Notice how others respond to you when weeds pop up in your life. Do you feel good about the way your communicate during challenging times? If not, can you find a way to communicate your needs and desires that is more direct?
  4. Stop caring what others think about the weeds. Who would you be and what would you do if you didn't care what others though of you? (This is a life long practice!) 
  5. Make self-care a priority. This is my go to tip when anyone I care about is dealing with weeds. It is the best way I know of to validate self-worth and send a message to yourself that weeds do not need to define who you are. Nurture yourself mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically.

Are you quick to pluck the weeds and throw them away or can you use them not only as grist for the mill, but also as densely nutritious material that can make your life more full and complex?

Think about it and share in the comments :)