Here are my 10 resolutions for the New Year:
- I came across this website, which suggests choosing a word for the year to focus on. My word is ATTENTION. So, my first resolution is to be present and patient with my children. I sometimes get caught up in the everydayness of having kids and I really want to enjoy them. Giving them my full attention will help me. Hoping I can cross this one off my list at least a few times a week.
- Pay attention and patient with my husband and myself. Be understanding if I don’t cross that one off as easily at first. (Not that #1 is easy.) It’s all a practice.
- To that end, review the day while taking a shower before bed. (I take a shower every night already, so this is one way to incorporate my goals into my established routine.) Think of a wonderful, “golden moment” for each member of my family. And a moment when each person struggled. Write these moments down in a journal before going to bed. In the morning, when doing my brief (very brief these days!) yoga routine, do an abbreviated “Compassionate Response Meditation” for each of us — breathing in the image of struggle and holding the person with love and breathing out the “golden moment” and holding the person with joy. On days when I won’t be doing yoga, I will do this in bed before getting up.
- Go for a short walk 2 days/ week and a longer walk on on the weekend with my family. I can do this while wearing Ben and he usually falls asleep in the carrier for this is a win/win resolution. Realize it’s a goal and I may need to work up to it.
- Drink more water and eat healthy — no sugar, no alcohol, no cheese, no wheat — and then have one day/ week when I allow myself whatever I want. Otherwise, what’s the point? I will just start eating cookies every night.
- Sleep. Go to bed by 9:30pm every night. This one is actually pretty easy for me since I'm exhausted at the end of the day.
- Go out after the kids are in bed one night/ month even if it is just for a short amount of time. See my sister, hang out with my husband without the children right there, connect with other mamas — It’s important. Be back for my own “bedtime” so I don’t pay for going out by not exercising the next morning.
- Devote one hour/ week for writing. And do it.
- Devote two hours/ week for larger goals. Pick one and keep it up — even if it is just a little step each week — until it is accomplished. And then pick the next one.
- Be flexible and patient with myself — knowing that some goals may not be completed until my children are grown. And that’s fine. Go back to goal!
And what are your resolutions this year?